You've married the woman of your dreams and the honeymoon is over. You're confused because your dream has become a nightmare and your social life has vanished. You need a Marriage Makeover.

Friends have followed a post-wedding custom and left you to get to know one another without their interference.

Just when you could have done with their support and friendly advice.

With "that" argument.

The first one in your marriage. There's no telling when it will happen. And there's no telling why.

It may be the way you drive. It may be the way you hog the TV remote and constantly channel surf. This is a biggie. Watch out.

But when it does happen you learn the importance of the difference between a marriage based on a feeling only and one based on a choice with long term commitment and feelings. When you exchanged vows you "signed up" for the long haul.

Remember.

The world's solution to settling such arguments is when the "feelings" between you sour a little you look for the fastest way out.

That never works.

You just take the biggest reason for the problem - you - off into a new relationship. It's doomed to failure as you run your life on the cruel myth - If doesn't feel good any more don't do it.

You need to develop longsuffering and forgiveness to stay in any marriage.

Your Marriage Makeover begins with an Insider Secret. Wives hurl words that wound at their husbands. The key is to understand they often don't really mean it. You have a special assignment here - should you choose to accept it.

And, yes, that is a two way street. Insults are flowing in both directions.

You're special assignment is to be transformed by renewing your mind to the point where you can see wounding words as a cry for understanding and acceptance of a long held view. Such as it being wrong for husbands to monopolize the TV remote and surf through all the channels. Without first asking his wife if she minds.

Beginning your Marriage Makeover will bring a freshness to your relationship. And it will encourage you to get started on the next stage.

Copyright 2006 Kenneth Little