I am lazy and don't have willpower, but I want to date somebody!

If you find yourself in the above sentence, don't worry it appliesto 99% of male population and also quite a few of the female population.

So you've decided to change and you know what to do, but excuse yourself and just keep on going with the flow and hanging out with your desperate friends who are so desperate that they neglect they have a problem and get drunk so they could go to bed with anything female (as they say!).

Maybe you feel you don't have any willpower and motivation here are some steps that you can take to change which don't require big effort both in mind and physically.

Follow them step by step, and soon you will be much better than you are now.

First thing you must do is immediately, at this very moment, stop and I mean stop, blaming yourself for a sh*tty state you find yourself in.

You know you should go talk to that quite beautiful brunette each day you see her, but every time that happens you think of an excuse that sounds perfectly normal, only after she goes away you realize that there was nothing stopping you. The same thing goes for females who are interested in talking with a certain guy.

Remember it's not your fault. Not your fault!

When you cross the street you look left and then you look right and you cross the street safely. You didn't know that when you were a child. If they let you cross the street on your own you would never guess the right sequence of looking at the incoming traffic and you would die very young.

So, many things that they teach us are good for us and necessary for our survival. But many are not.

Remember that society will always teach you something that is good for its well-being, and for its well-being, it is extremely important that young children don't get run over by trucks and cars.

But it's also very important that an average man never gets an attractive woman pregnant. So an attractive woman must always get pregnant by a man who benefits the society in some way. That is one of the society laws I figured out by seeing how people behave.

Go do an experiment. First tell your excuser buddies that you are busy and cannot join them today, cause if you take them with you, you will all sink and nobody will do anything.

Find out a place where there may be women.

If you can't do that then you are a hopeless case, go jump through a window!

No, I'm just kidding you, don't do that. Even if you can't find that out at the moment, eventually you will, or ask the guys from your local seduction lair, there are many posts written about how to find where women hang out and I wrote them also.

So now you will do an experiment. Please leave at home your new, Star Trek communicator style cell phone and take the old one that looks like a brick, leave at home all those rings, necklaces (often they may still look gay on guys, anyway) and earrings.

When you first started to wear them them, it felt spectacular thatyou can do it, but leave all that gadgets at home, and go to the club dressed like an ordinary geek.

If you are a busy person, you don't have to spend a whole night an hour will do. Then do what you usually do, or at least try to do what you usually do....

Good, you did it.

Now for your next outing please put on all your flashy clothes and accessories that show your "value" and go to the same place. You can do both missions in the same day or even change clothes in the car if you are in a hurry.

Now, after you've done it sit back and think.

Why the hell do I feel less fear when I am dressed well, and why I feel like a failure when I am dressed badly?

Where does that feeling come from, think.... think.

I will tell you. It comees from the social conditioning you receive when you are a kid that makes you work and work later in life. Is there a better way to make a man work than limiting his self esteem, is there a better way to make a man work like mad if you convince him that he will never get a woman if he is not valuable enough to the society.

Even if you dressed in real Italian designer clothes, nothing happens, girls give you a glance, but that's it.

Realistically, dressing in an expensive outfit does catch a girls eye and they all like well dressed men, but will it get you a girl if you stay an excuser, not really....

In order to be with somebody you must first weaken your excuses.

If you have the means to buy expensive clothes, do it, but consider image only your secondary weapon of limited strength.

I've seen a lot of great looking men dressed perfectly good sitting in nightclubs and waiting for a miracle to happen; they were blocked by excuses and couldn't even talk to women, not to mention approaching them.

Now I am at the seaside, I see super good-looking bodybuilders having perfect bodies and perfect suntan parading in front of women on the beach, is that the way to go?

To parade all day hoping that a miracle will happen, to supplicate to your own insecurities by buying more flashy clothes?

Now do the following exercise, you may be lazy and a wussy right now, but after the exercise your excuses will definitely weaken.

If you can approach and talk to women, this exercise is a piece of cake, but if you feel really blocked by society pressures in your head, this exercise will be a big breakthrough and I advise you to do it.

Go out to the street to some place where people are standing, every town has a meeting place where people meet, if nothing occurs to you, any place will do.

Take your watch and put it in your pocket.

Find a girl, probably attractive, and go ask her what is the time. Of course, she looks at you as an excuser smurf....do that to several women.

Then put on your watch so it can be seen and go ask for the time again.

Ask the same girls, of course. I bet you started feeling strange feelings gripping you from the inside.

What you feel right now is the society program.

If it grips you so hard on a very simple task of asking for the time, how in the world will it let you seduce a woman?

To be able to defeat it you must first be able to identify it. Many men cannot identify the cause of their problem and just try to fake, fake until .....hmm you've seen it, they move a nation forward, invent new disc operating systems and still struggle to get a date.

What I strongly believe in is that you must destroy your own internal excuses and only then take care of the outside facade. I believe that is the best way to go.

Destroying the excuses in your head is hard work, but you can start while being a lazy man. The more excuses you destroy, the less lazy you will be, because the feeling of laziness is just a manifestation of society program.

If the society program in your mind told you don't go to that girl cause of X, you would stand a chance to defeat it.

But if it told you: Don't go to that girl cause you are so tired and you can do it tomorrow, you don't even notice the excuse and society wins and you lose!

So noticing the excuses is the first step to take, when you start seeing them, you will feel like somebody suddenly gave you eyesight. After you see how society works, don't let your buddies be slaves anymore. Maybe they will not appreciate your explanations at the moment, but they will once they realize it also.