Let's say you do find a hot & sexy single girl you want to meet who wants to meet you too. You start up a conversation. Since we've all been conditioned to start acting in a way that will create the best impression, especially when we first meet people, putting on a "mask" or facade is virtually unavoidable.

Especially in that "first-meeting" situation, it's hard for most of us to be ourselves. We all want to be liked, so we try to act like what we guess that other person will consider both acceptable and appealing. We're not sure, but at least if she rejects my mask, so the logic goes, she still hasn't rejected me. In other words, the mask is also a defense.

Yet, what if the masks may be perfect for each other, while the people behind them are not truly compatible at all? A serious problem arises if you fall in love with each other's masks because eventually, both he and she will come out from behind their masks and slip back into being the person they really are! Then, the relationship is over.

And here is another problem that wearing masks cause: Suppose you don't like the mask that the other person is wearing. With a mask being used as a defense, you never really get to know the real person underneath, when all the while the real person underneath might be very compatible with you. In other words, masks get in the way!

Guessing about what people are really like and what they would like to see in you takes a lot of energy. Wearing masks causes tension. Wearing masks requires a lot of effort and wastes a lot of time keeping up the front. When you are genuine and authentic, life gets much easier and is certainly much more fun.

So, for this week's tips I am strongly urging you to be yourself when meeting single women. Don't try to be someone you are not. You're true personality is going to come out in the end and it's best that she is exposed to the true you in the beginning so there will not be any surprises later on in the relationship.