You have heard it all before. The best way to find your true love (that is true to the REAL you) is to be AWARE of who you truly are. Investigating time into yourself is never time wasted and could be an awakening of your true self.
Spend time alone. If you are not yet in a relationship this is golden time. Treat yourself gently; take care of yourself physically (spa treatments, facials, massages, etc). Read some self-improvement literature and/or some spiritual growth books. Be comfortable being YOU! As your own comfort level increases, you will find that you may still want a relationship, but that want is no longer running your life. Now you are ready to attract a really great relationship.

So lets begin. Be BRUTALLY HONEST- this is for YOUR EYES ONLY!

Ask yourself- what really attracts me to another person. Is it really JUST the way they look? If your answer is yes how long does the look thing work for you. Being married to a very attractive man I can tell you that the look thing does work but since we had known each other since forever (30 years) no matter how gorgeous someone is the LOOK does wear off. So if you are very shallow, you might believe the look will last forever- HOWEVER if you are that shallow, why would such a great looking person be with you in the first place? The reality is the best looking people have first choice almost always. So lets dig a little deeper.

I am sure you have all seen great looking men and women and seen their husband/wife or significant other and thought What the? They dug a little deeper. Think about your best friend? What makes you friends? Is it the ability to share freely without judgment? Is it an innate comfort level? Being able to depend on their assistance no matter what? The same traits you look for in a really good friend MUST also be present in your true REAL love.

Communication is high on the list and must remain open in the best and worst of times (just like with your friends). Do you have any friends you have NEVER had a falling out with? When it all blows over, you are still friends.

The ability to do nothing - plan nothing and go with the flow.
This is a great way to tell how in sync you are with yourself and someone else. Taking walks and enjoying a great day in silence does wonderful things for a relationship. Should you find someone who is uncomfortable with this they would not be good for a long-term relationship. Lets face facts. Marriage is a lot of face time with nothing on the agenda. You must be comfortable with yourself and each other no matter what you are doing.

When you start dating, schedule a day in the park doing nothing. Walking, sitting, feeding the ducks, quiet down time. Trust how comfortable you feel and be aware of your partners level of comfort (or discomfort as the case may be).

Love is based on doing what is best for the other person, ALWAYS and in ALL WAYS!
You should not excuse your mate or potential mate from doing anything for you that needs to be done by another person. When you are sick, it really IS your mates job to make sure you have what you need, can get to a doctor if necessary and if they cannot do that, designate someone else who can. When you need help or support emotionally, mentally, physically or financially, THEY should be the FIRST people you call on. Do NOT get this twisted! I am not advocating the Gold Digger mentally, simply stating that someone who loves you will WANT to help you if you need it AND you give them the opportunity.
So maybe they cannot help you financially, they can still be of assistance; you just need to let them be their best selves. Someone who truly cares about you will NOT wait to be asked, they will volunteer!

Real love brings out the best (and sometimes the worst) in each of us. The trick is to allow yourself to grow enough so you only CHOOSE to be with others who bring out YOUR best - and you bring out theirs. Be blessed in your quest and never quit! If you are looking for marriage be sure it is also looking for you. Be Aware, it may not be exactly where you seek it, but your heart will let you know.

Fill YOURSELF up from the inside out and your heart will never be empty!